Reasons Why Guys Don't Call After A Great First Date

Published: 19th October 2010
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So, you meet a man and it's love at first sight. You got on so well, there just has to be something more. He takes your number and you wait for his call. The excitement is electrifying. You wait and wait and then... nothing. The disappointment can be unbearable. You can't understand it. It felt so good, so what happened? Read on to find out reasons why guys don't call after a great first date.

Well firstly, it has to be said that actually a guy may take your number with no intention of calling. Perhaps he already has someone in his life and was just being nice. Sometimes it can take him up to a few weeks to call you. Well he doesn't want to look desperate so he plays it cool. Whatever the reason, it's not worth spending your time wondering why you haven't heard from him. The fact that he's not calling is the only message you need. Time to let go and move on!

If this is something that happens to you regularly, then you may want to evaluate how you come across to men when you first meet them. One thing that lets some women down is that their enthusiasm, when they meet a guy whom they are hugely attracted to, can be very intense to the point that it comes across as desperation. This could be the case if you latch on to the first man who shows you any attention and won't let go. Guys don't call if they sense that you are desperate.

That's one reason why it is never a good idea to force your number on him or ask him for his. If he's not going out of his way to get your number, then giving it to him is probably going to lead to disappointment and will be a waste of time. If he thinks you are too pushy then he's definitely not going to call.

If he's a bit shy, then he may not call if he wasn't sure whether you were interested enough. Work on flirting with men so that you can indicate interest without coming across as desperate.

However, if he is available and he knew you were interested in him, then either he wasn't attracted enough to you or you did or said something to put him off. This might include drunkenness, being overbearing or talking too much. Guys don't call women who don't seem to be in control. Generally, however, it will be the kind of aura of desperation mentioned previously, or some display of negativity. Think back on the conversations you had - there are some topics of conversation that you should definitely avoid when you first meet a guy such as ex-partners, controversial subjects, and negative emotions and feelings about men.

If you think you may have been guilty of any of the above mistakes then you shouldn't beat yourself up. Simply learn from your mistakes and move on. It's always best not to let yourself get attached to the outcome when you give a guy your number. If you learn what works in dating and how to deal with calling guys it will give you the advantage and you will no longer need to ask why guys don't call.

Would you like to learn what works in dating when it comes to calling and texting guys? Learn when it's OK to call and when you need to hold back. Find out why guys don't call and what's on his mind when you call him. If you don't know how to handle this area of dating, it could seriously damage your success with men. Click here for comprehensive advice on dealing with calling, texting and emailing the men that you date. Alternatively find more information on calling men and answers to the question "Should I Call?"

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